One thing we all share in common with everyone on the planet is — We all have a mother and no one else has been with us from the very beginning of life!
On a holiday set apart as “Mothers Day” we all have different responses. Some joy in our relationship or in our role in life, or some with grief or sorrow because of the loss of this relationship or perhaps pain from issues or hurt overt he years. As a daughter I am aware of all of these- unmet needs and expectations and also my often unloving behavior. As a mom, I am aware of how hard it is to be the kind of mother I desire and my falling short many times, as well as how wonderful it is when it all clicks.
As a life coach, I am very aware of how mother issues effect many areas of our life. We all struggle with the balance of honesty about our pain, acceptance of our mom’s, honor, loyalty, connection and being our own person. Personally I am so grateful for the issues with my teenage daughter which led me to seek help and deal with my own mother issues. This process opened the door to a whole new way of living, thinking and feeling. It allowed transformation with all my children, my mother and my husband and really everyone around me. People often avoid looking at these mother issues because it is easier to bury the pain and think it is going to be painful or dishonoring to her to go there. What I have seen so many times is by being honest and bringing these issues to light (with the help of someone trained and experienced) we come out on the other side in a true place of love, acceptance of your mom!
For today, how can you be grateful for your mom? If not for her, you would not be alive. The unique person you are would not exist! This if nothing else is a cause to celebrate this Mothers Day! If she is alive be sure to tell her in some way. If she is no longer on this earth, tell her anyway– You can say it aloud, plant a flower, sit in the sunshine — Life is a gift and this is a good day to celebrate it!