As we are working on our evening routines this month, I have a great suggestion for communication. One of my favorite things, when my kids were young, was to tuck them in bed. This was such a special one on one time. My favorite thing was when I would ask, “What was the best thing about the day?” and “What was the worst thing about the day?”. Then just listen. This was not a time for teaching, training or other lectures. Just entering into their world to mourn and rejoice with them on their perspective of life at the moment. In addition to sharing a moment and feeling heard, this teaches them about life. A normal life has ups and downs, highs and lows, every day. Often we either stuff the bad in denial or only focus on the bad things and feel like life is awful. Learning to accept both and go on is a very special gift. Adding, ” What are you looking forward to tomorrow?”. This shifts the focus to a new day and new possibilities.
These questions are helpful in any relationship. Lunch or coffee with a friend or spouse, or conversation with a co-worker. It shifts the relationship into a deeper level without overly prying.
It is also a great tool for communication with your self. Just like I mentioned above, asking these questions regularly, keeps you out of denial without over focusing on the bad and feeling overwhelmed and negative. A very good thing!!
Here is to the day! Both the highs and the lows!