We have been in the midst of a crazy decision making time. With the needs of a teen and MIL with dementia and how to adequately take care of everyone and their basic needs. My tendency is to switch between denial (not thinking about it) and just making a quick decision and get it going. Most of the time I am just stuck in the middle, weighing the pros and cons of each possibility.
The best way for me to push myself out of this frozen place, happens to be our habit of the month! (convenient huh). When life is feeling overwhelming and difficult allowing myself to go to a place of thankfulness is like an oasis in the desert. I can create a safe environment for my heart, mind and spirit to rest and renew.
Asking “What am I thankful for?”, totally changes my perspective on the problem. I can be thankful for this wonderful, almost a man, child. How we came through this high-risk pregnancy, preemie birth to discover things about my self, to learn and grow in ways I never did with the other kids. Now, with just a few years left in my home, I can help him learn to stand-up for himself and get the help he needs for his learning differences. I can be thankful for my MIL. I am thankful for her in having the wonderful child who now loves me and supports me like no other. I am thankful to model love and respect for the elderly when basic life care is unmanageable.
After a few minutes of gratitude, my heart is at rest. The situation has not changed, but I am more confident in dealing with it. We will find a solution benefiting us all. Maybe not a perfect one, but one we can all embrace.
Today’s goal is bathing. (The MIL, not the son- thankfully). While the lack of hygiene, bothers us more than her, it must be done one way or another. I can’t imagine what it would be like to not remember to bathe. Gives me more compassion for the task at hand. I just have to be loving and firm. Today we are going to do this. Can I find a playlist for bathtime?? And maybe cinnamon rolls when we are finished. 🙂 Yes, in addition to thankfulness, I have to ask “How can make this fun” (see previous habits!)
“What are you thankful for today?”