“What did I do to Deserve This?” How our questions influence us forever.

cropped-garden-of-the-gods.jpgWe were driving home from a very frustrating doctors visit, with a doctor who knew little about dementia or how to deal with a dementia patient.  I was looking for assistance with home health for bathing and medication for her anxiety.  Instead, I came away with paperwork on cooking for a patient with high-blood pressure… sigh.  My mother-in-law had already forgotten about the traumatic visit and was distracted by the huge cumulus clouds banking all around the sky.   Suddenly, the sky opened up to a huge downpour. The rain was so heavy and strong even the wipers on full blast could not keep up. It was a bit terrifying for me, who loves storms, trying to see and keep on the freeway.  She was in quite a panic.  Then she asked, “What did I do to deserve this?” Continue reading ““What did I do to Deserve This?” How our questions influence us forever.”


First Things First

10525916_781390441881524_13519433434744531_n[1]When life gets busy and crazy with a never-ending to-do list usually I tend to roll up my sleeves and get on the treadmill and keep going and going and going.  It takes a while for me to realize I have gone too far over the edge.   Yesterday, I thought about working out.  Hmmmm how long has it been?  Over a week…No wonder I am feeling lethargic and tense. Really, I know the fact is, the busier I am, the more I need to be aware of what it takes to keep me functioning – physically and emotionally.   Just like I need to set up routines in my life to make sure the dishes are done every day and people have food to eat, I must have some routines in place to keep me balanced and energized.   Everyone is different.  For me I need to do these things every day!! Continue reading “First Things First”

Conquering the Fear of Decluttering!

My coaching philosophy is a systems approach where we make internal changes to produce outward results.  There are times when trying to change external habits or behavior can reveal inner blocks.  If we can address these blocks and transform them we can create lasting change and action is not painful or difficult.  Let me give a great example here from my life. In this series of blogs, I will walk you through the process. It was too long, so I am having to break it into several posts.  This process is helpful for removing blocks  in any area of life where you feel stuck. Continue reading “Conquering the Fear of Decluttering!”

Thrill of Victory and the Agony of Defeat

I was almost as glad to have the Olympics over as I was to have them come.  It does take up a lot of my time and energy keeping up with it all. Of course, the opening  and closing ceremonies are always my favorite anyway.  Like I love pilots and series finales of TV shows and if I only watched those, I could save a lot of wasted time!  I also love births, weddings and funerals.  LOL  OK so before this turn into a blog on living between our high mountain top experiences, I will get to my point.

These people have trained endlessly for years.  Sometimes the win went to the favored and sometimes the most experienced failed and the win went to some one less experienced and not expected.  It all came down to performance on that day.  Some of the races were won by .005  or even .0007 of a second.  Oh my goodness.  I cannot even imagine how that would feel.  There could be many number of lessons learned in this.  What stands out for me is that every day is a chance to win.  I will step up to the starting line as the day begins and give my best effort. Hopefully it will be better than the day before.  Sometimes I will crash in a heap, flailing arms and legs in all directions looking for solid ground.  Other times I will soar in one way or another, knowing I have all that it takes for the victory of the day!  And then thankfully, I can start again the next day.  Every day is a gift and I can ask—

Did I live?

Did I love?

Did I laugh?

and Did I make a difference?

Ahhh now that is a Gold Medal performance!

An amazing way to move!

Only a few more days to motivate myself toward this habit of movement every day.  This hilarious clip combines dancing, movement and social interaction.  What could be better?  I have actually tried it and love it.  In the burbs, I have to bring a friend along as there are not just tons of people on the street, but it is a great fun workout!






Blog # 53= free gift for you!!

Hooray, Hooray!!

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My goal last year was to learn about blogging and write an inspiring and helpful blog once a week.  While I was not as consistent in my timing as I had wanted to be, I did come pretty close to having 52 posts in one year and I have learned so much.  Just getting my typing speed up and letting my ideas flow onto the keyboard rather than with a pen has improved.

In thanks for all of you who have been “following” me, I want to give you one of my favorite coaching tools.  This one called ” The Interview” is very helpful in getting you thinking beyond the present into what you would like your life to become.    While I do use this in coaching clients, I think it could be very useful for you to do on your own.  You will gain insights and perhaps learn new things about yourself.  It might give you ideas for changes you want to make or things you want to stay the same.

To get your tool, you will need to send me a note on the blog. What has been helpful here or just a Hi Sonja congrats on meeting your goal!!  AND also send me an email at singasonja@aol.com indicating your desire for “The Interview” .   If you are not currently following me, you can still get your tool by clicking follow and then doing the 2 steps above.

I am excited about continuing blogging and am keeping  my goal of once a week and getting better and better at it for  2013!!

What goals have you accomplished and where would you like to go this year??