Throughout our lives we have received input on who and what we should do do be ok. Some of us have huge ideas that are impossible to reach or often these ideas are conflicting. We read magazine articles or books trying to improve ourselves and if you are like me these are sometimes helpful and sometimes make us feel a little less than or never able to measure up to others. Other people look like they have life easy and have achieved perfection or gotten it all together. So,we try harder and sometimes we are successful and other times fall on our faces. For me the break though came when I realized no one really has achieved this perfection. Everyone puts on a nice smile and gets dressed the same way I do! I can learn great things from others in one area or another and they can actually learn from me in another. I am so lucky to have a long time friend who taught me to be more structured and organized with my days with young babies. She is highly gifted in this area. She in turn says she learned from me to relax more and have more fun with her kids. We all have strengths and weaknesses. The challenge it to grow in both of them; to understand and accept our own unique selves while continuing to grow! Continue reading “Courage to Be Yourself”
In my mind I am imagining saying it like Mel Gibson in “Braveheart”. “FREEDOM!!!”
Admittedly, I am a little sad to let our June habit of having fun each day go. However, that is the cool thing about making new habits. By focusing on having fun each day, it can continue in our everyday day life naturally, even why we change our focus to another area.
Each of us will have our own needs and ideas concerning what freedom can or needs to look like for us. For some, it will be letting go of the past and going on, for others making changes and taking charge of areas in life that have held us captive. I teach a children s class for a 12 step program. This week we deal with powerlessness. We all have situations in life where we feel powerless and we cannot change them. There are, however, many things we can change.- Attitudes, responses, thoughts and beliefs that are not serving us at this time. And yes, Boundaries, both physical and emotional can help us be free to be ourselves and feel safe to be ourselves. I do love the old prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can
And the wisdom to know the difference .
How would a month of practicing the habit or freedom each day look for you?? Are there areas you need to accept or change?
It will be exciting to see how this plays out! hmm I think I need to run around the house shouting ” Freedom, Freedom”. (Since I am not wanting to give up on my having fun each day, quite yet!!)
Morning time is the best time to set your tone for the day. It is amazing to me how quickly a day can overwhelm me or take me in emotional places I don’t really want to go. When issues come up and people are annoying, I can become “that person” who is not who I want to be- critical and negative. Then I try to regroup by being angry at myself or withdrawing. This is not a pretty picture but I bet it happens sometimes to you too.
Establishing a great 15 minute morning routine which includes a power walk is my
answer to the not so pretty Sonja syndrome. Placing my shoes and shorts by my bed the night before, I can get going quickly and I am out the door before my mind is awake enough to make excuses.
1) Breathing -Starting with warming up ( I do tend to be slow in the morning) breath in deeply with some belly breaths. Relax your diaphragm and let the air go deeper each time. Focus on the breath. Then do four short breaths in and four out. This jump starts your metabolism and brings oxygen to your brain. I like to alternate the 4-4 breathing with the belly breaths. Doing 5 of each.
2) Gratitude– What are you thankful for? I start with God and all the goodness, love,
healing, etc., He has brought me. Then starting with my feet I am grateful for my body- strong muscles, ability to walk, heart and lungs working as they should for me every moment. Then moving outward, I am so thankful for those closest to me- my husband, each of my children. I picture their faces and say their names aloud as I experience the joy of these blessings to me. Another spiral outward and I am grateful for friends and people I work with. As I look around I am thankful for the sun coming up and bringing light and the birds and trees. Ahhh, life is good in the moment.
3)Encouragement– To encourage myself now in a way that will last all day, I use affirmations and repeat them over and over aloud and let them become strong in my mind and spirit. Repeat a phrase or verse that has meaning to you. If trying to lose weight try “Nothing tastes as good as thin feels” . If trying to move forward in life you could try ” I have been created for all good things” or ” Each step brings me closer to my goal”. Trust me, this might feel a little strange at first, but it really works. As your words match the rhythm of your feet these truths become a natural part of who you are.
4)Visualize– Now think about your day to come. Picture the expected activities and even the unexpected ones. Imagine how you will respond with courage and grace in the midst of each one. This morning I pictured myself sitting at my desk writing this blog, having just the right words to encourage and support you in trying this new morning routine. I imagined myself packing for my trip, confident in what things were necessary to bring and what would just be extra weight. I saw each of my clients and our appointments today having fun and enjoying their progress.
5) Celebrate-Hooray- You are done and have given yourself a wonderful gift. End with gratitude for life and for this moment in time. If you want more of a workout then go for it. You can add more walking, jogging, dancing, yoga or whatever your doctor and you have decided works or just jump into your day.
My suggestion would be to try this just as I have written and then adapt to what feels comfortable to you. Let me know how it is going and what works in your life. Make it a great morning!!