In This Moment….

May 8 Waterfall

Today, I sit in my favorite spot on top of my favorite waterfall. The water level is less than it was only a few weeks ago when I had such an amazingly fun time.  I am also aware that next month there will possibly be no refreshing water at all cascading over these rocks. It is a challenge to enjoy the deliciousness of this moment and to accept what is true at this time, in this place. The sun, the breeze, the birds and the cool water all provide a banquet for my heart and soul.

I went for  an annual exam at the doctor.  I like to hear everything is ok and working as it should.  Only, not this time. Hmm… what’s this lump. Of course it is a lump, why did I not notice it myself?  Which led to another appointment, another test and then yet another.  And the expectation of more to come.  Words we really do not want to hear from someone in a white coat. Not what I had in mind for my summer plans. I can take this moment to stay here, accept what is truth and not fight it, yet not make it more than it is.  I know I am stronger than I feel.

I can remember back so very long ago a  situation with a tumor which grew to be as large as my unborn baby.  The fear and struggle from that time tries to fill my heart and soul.  I have to remind myself, “This is now, not then.”  I am in such a different place.  Of course, I can remember the good lessons from that time- love myself, love others, don’t sweat the small stuff , keep a sense of humor and stay in the moment- don’t get ahead of yourself. I just have to look at my amazing 6′ 5 son to remind me of the miracle of that time.

So, here I am  in this moment.  I am free to choose courage over fear.  Acceptance over striving. Peace and grace in this moment.  I can enjoy and celebrate all the love and support from family and friends. Decisions will need to come. Summer plans and goals will adjust and change. Tomorrow, I will deal with what comes my way in the strength of that moment and the next and the next.  I will gratefully return to my waterfall perch in times when I need to refresh, renew and remind myself to accept and thrive in this moment.  There may be an abundance of water or none at all, but still I can choose to embrace this time.  Kind of like my life at this moment.

How can you embrace this moment for yourself?



Need some help, please

Good Morning Blog World!

This morning is one of those simply amazing times- perfect temp, perfect amount of humidity, sun shining, but not too bright.   A great opportunity to enjoy the moment.  I know this afternoon, it will change and I will have to adapt to the 90 degrees and blazing sun.   This is life.   Not every moment can hold that perfect mix of everything being wonderful.  Things happen- pain comes, work comes, relationships are stressed.   Our growth and happiness is dependent on us learning how to accept what we cannot change, change what we can, even if it is within ourselves and adapt to life in a way that makes it a better place for all.  Life is an adventure- ups and downs, turns and twists.  Embrace it, go with the waves. Love, live and laugh your way through the rapids!

This is my perspective and what I want my blog to be.  To live this and encourage others.

A year and a half ago,we started out titling the blog as Life Coaching Plus, thinking it would be the work of Clay and I and this is the name of the coaching practice.   I mean really, what is better than 2 life coaches and we have some very diverse ideas.  A big plus in my world!!          As the blog has grown, we have adapted- Clay going to for his ideas and this one becoming more of my own voice.

So, I am thinking of changing the name!!  This is where I need your help.  Those who read my blog could tell me what they get out of my message and mission here-  How can I say it in 3 words?      My friend and colleague has “Purpose and Joy”.  (Of course we so often want what we cannot have, but I am looking for something that illustrates my message)

I have also considered Sing A Sonja .  You have to say it aloud for it to make sense.  This is my voice or my song.  Doesn’t say anything about coaching, but it is catchy and when I give it as my email, I usually get positive responses.

Now, feedback time.  What do you think of Sing A Sonja or do you have another idea for me?

This is a good time to thank all of you who read my blog.  I have really had fun learning how to get my ideas on paper,(Even though it is virtual paper)  and sharing with you all!!  My goal for the summer is to increase my posts from one to five a week, so stay tuned and see if I can do it!!

Don’t forget to have fun today!!



How do you handle times of Failure?

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Adaptation of above image illustrating an Internet meme (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Do you ever have those days when things are going so well.  You look around and are amazed at your growth and how you are progressing in your journey of life?  Then you have a crash day and everything inside is saying ” FAILURE”  You think, “What has happened to me.  I haven’t grown at all.    All my pain, weakness, and fears are back again.”    Usually for me this happens when I am focused on a great celebration of victory in one aspect of my life, only to find another lacking.  We all have these moments, even if when in this pit, we feel we are the only one.

These times of  discouragement,when we think all is lost, can bring us great victories of growth, depending on how we handle them.  What we think of as failure can be a springboard to greater things.

Here are  some great ideas:

1) Keep the failure in perspective.  Some things are life altering and some things are really not.  Very few are fatal.  Be thankful for it!  It is a good opportunity for growth.

2) Own up to it.  Yes, I did write that check that overdrew the account and caused many bank fees.  Yes, I did lose my temper and shouted at my teen.  Don’t blame anyone else.  You are responsible.

3) Be kind to yourself.  We are often our own worst enemy.  You can admit fault without abusing yourself or calling yourself names.  To say ,” I am so stupid” does not help you to get out of your mess any faster.

4) Take massive action beyond fixing the current problem.  While a perceived failure tends to put us in a frozen place, this is a time to act.  Trying doing something where you can see immediate results, like washing your car or cleaning out your closet.  This will set the wheels in motion and give you momentum to handle other things.

5) What can I learn from this?  Or, what do I need to change in my life? If you  can learn from a failure, it is productive and serves you well.  You can learn a lot from this time and can make choices about what your want and what you don’t want in your life.  It is the getting up again and again that produces character in your life.

6) Rejoice!!  It is a great day.  Tomorrow is a great day too.

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